- looking at the person
- not doing other things at the same time
- trying to really listen to the words they say
- watching the way they say it
- stopping myself analyse and solve their 'problem' in my head as they tell it to me
- and finally trying to show/reflect that I have heard and understood what they have said
It doesn't sound too difficult to do this. But why do we rarely give people our full attention like this? So often we are in conversations but half our mind is elsewhere thinking about the next thing to do, listening to other conversations, watching other things or people. We seem to be trying to do so much that we de-value the most important thing - each other.
I know I am guilty of this, especially on a Sunday morning when I have a list of people I need to see or things to do. I find myself chatting with someone whilst all the time looking over their shoulder for the next person on my 'to do' list. And what's more I really dislike it when people do this to me!
Well I can't change anybody else and sometimes I do have a list of people I really need to speak to. But the rest of the time I'm going to really try to do this. So if you are talking to me feel free to ask, "Have I got your full attention?" - because you deserve it!
Dedicated to LC